Letting Intuition Take the Reigns

The universe has ways of telling you that you’re on the right path, your true path. Learning to recognize the messages that are sent to you will not only help you appreciate when you receive them, but also to notice when you DON’T get them. Listening to your intuition, your gut feeling, and acting on it, will propel you towards your true path. This is something I learned at a young age, thanks to my mother who always told my to trust my intuition. There have been times when going against my intuition leads to pain or suffering, so I’ve learned to listen closely.

Story time:
I recently made a huge decision not to pursue a long distance move to San Diego that I had been planning for six months. I’ve moved long distances before, and was really excited to start a whole new chapter of my life in a brand new area. I had fallen in love with San Diego after vacationing there in late 2014, and was convinced that it would be my next stop in my life’s journey.

After visiting again and seeing the city from a different perspective (i.e. not through the eyes of a tourist), I began to really feel deep on my heart that it was not the right place for me.  It was not easy to succumb to the idea that maybe I shouldn’t follow through with my plans… Once I began to come around to listening to my intuition, I began the process of letting go, letting go of my plans and the image I’d created in my head of what I thought this move would bring to my life.

While it was difficult, even quite painful, to essentially pull the rug out from under myself, I knew in my heart and in my gut that it was the right thing to do. And then whole new set of challenges sprang up in front of me: the “Now what?”. By this point in my life, I have discovered that I work extremely well when I have a set goal in mind, a plan that will be going into action. Except, when happens when all of that comes to an abrupt end? You start over. Scrap you plans and all of you previous ideas. Re-asses your goals, your priorities, your desires. And once I did that, once I set my new intention, everything else seemed to fall right into place. Pretty much out of nowhere, too! I had been asking my friends and family to reassure me that I was doing the right thing when I chose not to move, which of course they did. But I also received that reassurance from the universe, when several amazing opportunities came my way.

These opportunities turned up within a week of my return from San Diego, one right after the other! And most important: it all felt RIGHT. It all felt like part of my true path, the path that I have worked so hard to figure out. In hindsight, I’m beginning to realize that forcing my life towards what I think is my true path is actually pushing me further from it. Perhaps it’s time to let the universe take the reins and start steering me towards my path, no matter where it leads.

 

“Your Vibe Attracts Your Tribe” :: My Thoughts

I’ve been stumbling upon this quote here and there in the past few months, and I found that it resonated with me immensely and has motivated some very important relationships. I’ve always put a lot of energy into figuring out the kind of vibe I want to relay to those around me, and that vibe has changed and transformed as I go through life changing experiences and meet people who push me to develop myself even further.

I want to share with you guys a struggle that’s been a part of my life since I was a teenager, something that I have constantly worked towards understanding further. A struggle to belong, to feel like I was in “my place”. Growing up in Wisconsin has always been something that I appreciated; that Midwest hospitality most definitely helped to shape the person I have become. But I couldn’t help but feel a bit trapped, that I was destined for bigger (And warmer!) places. Growing up, I was always encouraged by my family to be independent and to follow my heart, and I intended to do just that.

 

Upon graduating from the Milwaukee Institute of Art and Design, I had my sights set on the beautiful city of Vancouver. A year prior I had the amazing opportunity to intern with the Graphics Team at the head office of Lush Cosmetics, and fell simply head of heels for the city. Filled to the brim with enthusiasm and ambition, I applied for a working holiday visa, saved my pennies, and within a few months was on a jet plane (Okay, it was really a Boeing) with my bike, my cat, and a few large suitcases. To put it simply, my entire experience living in Vancouver was amazing, and the opportunity to experience a different culture from what I had always been immersed in changed my life in so many ways. During my 12 month work visa I met people that I am proud to say will be life long friends, even though we may not always live in the same city, let alone the same country. Though I had every intention of finding a way to gain another work visa and stay in this city that had captured my heart, I found myself in a the difficult spot of choosing where to go next. I’m not going to lie, I was pretty devastated at the thought of leaving Vancouver. I had worked so hard to get to this amazing place, only to give it up.

 

When my work visa came to a close and I had to return to the States, I was in a really dark place. Leaving my friends in Vancouver behind, I returned to Wisconsin to start my next venture in the capitol city of Madison. The first few months were emotional torture; I saw this as a personal failure, as opposed to stepping stone in my journey. What I wasn’t expecting though, was to be surprised by the connections I made with some very special Madison residents. I found solace in the friends that I made, which turned my depression around. What I began to learn during my time in Madison is that it is not the physical, geographical place that really impacts your life. Rather it’s the people you allow to be a part of you journey. This sounds like such a simple concept when I type it out now, but in the past I was so focused on finding and getting to the PLACE that I thought I belonged in, I completely overlooked the fact that it’s the people you connect with that drive home that feeling of belonging.

 

Madison is a wonderful city to live in, but I’m excited to spend my life experiencing life in other cities, countries and climates . My new found knowledge and sense of belonging will stay with me where ever I go, I’m sure of that. I’ve begun to explore my inner peace as I make incredible, meaningful connections with those who share my vibe. I know that going forward, I will continue to find those people and make those connections, and my dream is to grow old and look back on a life that is overflowing with wonderfully positive friendships and relationships. Upon discovering the quote “Your vibe attracts your tribe”, I realized that all along, that’s what I’ve been searching for. My people, my tribe. They may be scattered across the continent, even across the globe, but it’s our personal connection that knits us together.

 

I am SO GRATEFUL for the technology that is available to us today, which makes maintaining these kinds of relationships so easy. Long distance friendships have never been more exciting! Each day I look forward to the Snapchats, the Instagram photos, the Facebook posts from my friends around the world who are on their own amazing adventures. I may not speak to each of them on a daily or even monthly basis, but knowing that we’ve shared some great experiences together, and that we’ll meet again at some point fills my heart with a joy that I never thought possible. Those instagram online viewer private people are my tribe, I’ve never felt more sure of that. It beats the sense of belonging to just one place, that’s for fucking sure.

 

Now that I’ve rambled on about this journey towards realizing that my tribe has been around me all along, I encourage you to go find yours. Take a risk, go somewhere that you’ve never been, and I assure you, you’ll find your people. If you already have, let them know how much you appreciate them. Remind them just how important they are to you and your journey. And there’s never enough people in your tribe, the best tribes are ones that are always expanding and growing. The human connection is really what brings us all together and makes our lives so meaningful and valuable. My journey so far has been incredibly humbling, and I can only hope that my story will help others along their own path.

In the comments below, I would LOVE to hear about your experiences in finding your own tribe, or any thoughts you want to share on this topic!